Anonymous asked: “So im turning 13 and i have a girlfriend , i dont think im bisexual anymore I've been with her for 7 months now. my mom doesn't know i have a feeling she is homophobic but my cousins know. i dont know what to do.”
I always suggest people to not rush finding a label, as you are not bisexual for a period and then realize you are actually gay, which actually causes lots of misunderstanding about the term bisexuality. Many seem to go with label bisexuality without giving attention to what they really feel, until they truly find out about their attractions.
For coming out, if it is going to jeopardize your situation, it is better to postpone until you can provide for your own, as safety is always the best priority. But as you suggest this is how you think about your mother, I’d recommend testing out the water to see what she really thinks and how she might react if you’d come out. Just start a discussion on LGBT related news, or mention about a “friend” who come out to you, etc. and observe how she reacts, as you can get a clue from there. If it happens to be positive, then probably she will react same way when you come out, if not again it is better not to come out. If you ever decide to come out, after even observing she might react negative, please make sure to have a backup plan, someone to turn to in case of worst-scenario. Never forget, regardless how appealing and freeing coming out may be, safety always comes first.
Hope this helps, best wishes.
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