Anonymous asked: “I'm a 13 year old gay guy and over the past few months, I've felt very ready to come out to my closest friend. On the other hand, part of medoesn't want to feel as if I should label myself, and that I'll want to somehow take it back. Any help?:l”

Hello anon,

If you are comfortable with the label “gay” i.e. it does not restricts/limits your sexuality and is enough to describe it, then there is nothing to worry. If you feel like there is more, then just let yourself discover the whole spectrum of your sexuality before forcing to find a label. Then you can feel free to come out.

Hope this helps.

3 months ago · 2 notes

Anonymous asked: “I want to tell my friends first. I want them to know that I am gay because I feel that I might get positive feed back from them. However I'm just so scared that they'll reject me.”

Hello anon,

I know how you might exactly feel as I was the same when I was to come out for the first time. The truth is if those people are truly your friends, they will just be happy about you being honest to them and react positively. Yes there might be ones who might get surprised, but there might be also ones who were already expecting. You can also test out the water with bringing up a conversation, for instance on a marriage equality news, to see how they react as it will give you a better insight of their possible reaction.

Hope this helps and best wishes.

3 months ago · 3 notes

Anonymous asked: “So im turning 13 and i have a girlfriend , i dont think im bisexual anymore I've been with her for 7 months now. my mom doesn't know i have a feeling she is homophobic but my cousins know. i dont know what to do.”

Hello anon,

I always suggest people to not rush finding a label, as you are not bisexual for a period and then realize you are actually gay, which actually causes lots of misunderstanding about the term bisexuality. Many seem to go with label bisexuality without giving attention to what they really feel, until they truly find out about their attractions.

For coming out, if it is going to jeopardize your situation, it is better to postpone until you can provide for your own, as safety is always the best priority. But as you suggest this is how you think about your mother, I’d recommend testing out the water to see what she really thinks and how she might react if you’d come out. Just start a discussion on LGBT related news, or mention about a “friend” who come out to you, etc. and observe how she reacts, as you can get a clue from there. If it happens to be positive, then probably she will react same way when you come out, if not again it is better not to come out. If you ever decide to come out, after even observing she might react negative, please make sure to have a backup plan, someone to turn to in case of worst-scenario. Never forget, regardless how appealing and freeing coming out may be, safety always comes first.

Hope this helps, best wishes.

3 months ago · 3 notes

Anonymous asked: “I have been fighting my bisexuality for YEARS. I knew when I was 9, but being surrounded by a Catholic family covered those thoughts. Now, as a young adult, I still struggle with my sexuality. I have a boyfriend who's wonderful, kind and loving, & I, him. But lately it's felt different when it comes to the physical attraction. I'm dating the prefect man, but I feel so gay.”

Hello anon,

If you do not share the same feelings and attraction with him, try to observe if it has been always this way and you were simply forcing yourself due to your struggle or if it started to develop recently. This might be more than just you being bisexual, at the end, if he is “perfect” in your view but you do not feel same way, maybe it is simply because you are not attracted to him or never been.

You saying you feel so gay made me think: are you certain about being bisexual? I have seen so many gay individual who identify as bisexual at first due to fear, struggle and confusion, and then fully realize and admit being gay, so this is another point to take into consideration.

You should be open to yourself and explore your attractions. Make sure that you are not hiding behind bisexual label if you are actually gay, as this would be the most helpful step. If you are certain with it, well it is a sign of something different in the relationship: a thing to solve as a couple, which may also require you to come out to your boyfriend as well, but the thing is communication would be the key.

I hope this helps, and feel free to ask anytime.

Best wishes.

4 months ago · 5 notes

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Anonymous asked: “I'm really scared and I'm not sure what to do because the other night i realised I was gay. There hasn't really been any kinds of homophobia in my life (or homosexuals. If those come hand in hand) so I have no clue what to do. My dad's pretty ruthless, and I don't think he'd be very happy about this only son being gay, even if he didn't kick me out for it. My school is something I will keep away from in the relationship sense, but I so confused and I'm not sure how or what to do!”

Hello anon,

I know how hard that realization can be, as I personally freaked out at first. I remember even saying that word while looking into the mirror was almost impossible, breaking me down into tears so hard as if I have never cried before. This was just about 2.5 years ago, and now here I am, proudly embracing it, doing my best to help people who is struggling with it.

First of all, yay! You are brave and open enough to come out to yourself, to admit it, and it is one of the biggest steps forward. Next step? Embrace it! Love yourself! This is what to do.

Coming out is another step, and it is definitely up to you, as you should not rush coming out. First develop love for yourself, as it is what matters the most. Do no just “accept” it but embrace it. It is just a part of you, not something to describe you totally. I know this may sound like I am repeating myself but I am just trying to emphasize its importance.

You may also want to talk about it, then contact local LGBT organizations or GSA at your school if available. When ready, share it with people you love, you trust, as their support will also make you feel better.

I hope this helps and please do not hesitate to ask more if you need to.

Best wishes!

P.S. I know how scary it can be, as I was freaking out at first. What helped the most was just asking myself “what do I want?”, “how do I feel?”, and keeping a journal to write down all, to release all the pressure I had. I also remember watching videos from It Gets Better helped me a lot, making me realize there is nothing wrong about it.

4 months ago · 4 notes

Anonymous asked: “I came out to a friend as bisexual and she told me I'm only bi because I'm desperate for love and will settle for anybody.... This makes me mad.”

Hello anon,

I totally get you, as I had a similar experience with a close friend. When I came out, although she reacted ok at first, she then told me she thought I “was thinking” I am gay just because I did not have a girlfriend and that I was confused and this was not correct. I cannot even explain the devastation I had, as it was incomparable to anything else as a breakdown, being let down by someone you know for years as really close friends.

So why am I telling this? Because then we had a long talk with her, where I explained all, from what I felt to reasons for different sexual orientations, that how normal all those are. She was then honestly sorry for what she had told before, that she was just being silly and confused. Now she is a huge gay supporter, correcting people whenever she hears something wrong, defending equality and questioning everything anti-gay even when it is risky.

I recommend you to talk to your friend anon, explain all, as sometimes all they need to hear everything to understand what is really going on. If your friend still keeps the same attitude, then it might be the time to question that friendship, but I doubt it would come to that point.

I hope this helps, and feel free to ask if you need to.

Best wishes.

4 months ago · 18 notes

Mom Affirms Her Love in Son’s Coming-Out Video

via Advocate.com

A young man named Ryan posted an emotional and heartwarming video to YouTube in which he tells his mother he’s gay and receives nothing but love and acceptance from her.

“Sweetie, I’ll always love you,” she responds. She says she had wondered if he was gay, but that the tearful, fearful manner in which he approached her made her wonder if something terrible had happened.

Video originally posted by YouTube user Ryan Dubs with the following description:

I made this video because when I was contemplating coming out for the last year, I found other similar videos of people coming out to family members on a hidden camera really helpful. I noticed that there weren’t very many of these videos, so I wanted to create my own to help other people in the same way that I found these videos helpful. If you’ve created a similar one, I guarantee you I’ve seen it, so thank you so much for helping me. My mom reacted in an amazing way, and I really hope that all of you have a similar experience.

Make sure to watch this emotional video folks.

4 months ago · 79 notes · Source

Artyom & Joseph
One of the couples of a group of gay men and women, protesting IKEA for them removing a picture of lesbian couple from the Russian edition of their catalog with a kiss-in at Brooklyn IKEA.
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Artyom & Joseph

One of the couples of a group of gay men and women, protesting IKEA for them removing a picture of lesbian couple from the Russian edition of their catalog with a kiss-in at Brooklyn IKEA.

Read more here.

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