Anonymous asked: “I'm so scared to come out to my parents as bi, because they make really subtly homophobic comments often. Like the other day my mom said that she was okay with gay people getting married, but two men or two women kissing make her uncomfortable. I know they won't kick me out or anything, so I know I should feel lucky, but the thought that they won't fully accept me for who I am and that I'll make them uncomfortable makes me really sad and I can't do anything about it.”
I do know a mother of a friend of mine who would say she was okay with gays and lesbians but felt uncomfortable when she saw two men or women kissing. After I came out to her, I also wanted to confront her about it and it was simply because she did not necessarily like seeing anyone kissing in a passionate way, not necessarily gay couples only, which she admitted as due to the way she got raised and still trying to get rid of that point of view.
What I am trying to say is that it does not necessarily mean your mother will not fully ‘accept’ you. Without coming out to her, you can initiate a conversation on her comments to learn more, which will also give you a better insight about her views. Then you can decide whether or not to come out. Please do keep in mind that many parents’ attitude change after their kids come out to them, so please do not be pessimistic about it.
Hope this helps.
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