Anonymous asked: “Hey. Me and my mum were talking about gay rights the other day and she asked me if I was gay. (I'm a guy) Being the closeted gay I am, I denied it. She told me that it was good that I wasn't gay but also added that if I was gay she would try to help me change. She thinks she could change me. Any advice on how, when I come out to explain that she can't change me?”
I am sorry to hear your mother thinks that way but it is actually more common then you think. The problem is people to see homosexuality as a disease that can be treated or a choice that can be altered, where they also fail to explain on thing: if homosexuality, being just one of the sexual orientations, is seen as something to or can be changed, how come heterosexuality, again being another sexual orientation, is not seen the same way? This is where they fail.
The thing is, you can explain your mother that homosexuality is as normal as heterosexuality, that cannot be changed and was never a choice. If she wants to change something, that should be her view on the issue, not who you are.
There have been actually people who claimed they can “treat” and “convert” gay individuals, however not only they failed in a great level but also caused many of those to lose their lives due to suicide.
Your mother should love you no matter what, and if you explain all these in a calm way, I am sure she will understand. Also you can get help from local LGBT organizations or PFLAG if available.
Hope this helps.
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