Anonymous asked: “Hey. Me and my mum were talking about gay rights the other day and she asked me if I was gay. (I'm a guy) Being the closeted gay I am, I denied it. She told me that it was good that I wasn't gay but also added that if I was gay she would try to help me change. She thinks she could change me. Any advice on how, when I come out to explain that she can't change me?”

Hello anon,

I am sorry to hear your mother thinks that way but it is actually more common then you think. The problem is people to see homosexuality as a disease that can be treated or a choice that can be altered, where they also fail to explain on thing: if homosexuality, being just one of the sexual orientations, is seen as something to or can be changed, how come heterosexuality, again being another sexual orientation, is not seen the same way? This is where they fail.

The thing is, you can explain your mother that homosexuality is as normal as heterosexuality, that cannot be changed and was never a choice. If she wants to change something, that should be her view on the issue, not who you are.

There have been actually people who claimed they can “treat” and “convert” gay individuals, however not only they failed in a great level but also caused many of those to lose their lives due to suicide.

Your mother should love you no matter what, and if you explain all these in a calm way, I am sure she will understand. Also you can get help from local LGBT organizations or PFLAG if available.

Hope this helps.

2 months ago · 17 notes

Anonymous asked: “I'm a bi girl and my friends & family are making jokes about people being gay and bi all the time. A few of them even said that being bi/gay isn't even 'normal' and is 'weird and unnatural'. So I'm stuck about how I'm going to tell them.”

Hello anon,

In such circumstances, I found out a little questioning and explanation mostly work out well. I have also experienced some of my friends claiming being gay was “unnatural” where they were like “sorry, we did not know that”. The thing is, most people seem to be able to joke about it based on stereotypes and etc. until someone they know comes out. As they know that person is perfectly normal and natural, this forces some people to question their prejudice. In addition, claiming being gay or bisexual as “weird and unnatural” would suggest that any sexual orientation to be weird and unnatural, including heterosexuality, so yay logic for proving all sexual orientations, from homosexuality to heterosexuality, bisexuality, the whole spectrum, to be perfectly normal and natural (I am not even mentioning homosexuality has been observed in nature as well). So that’s one thing: if you ever face such claim, just question them back.

Another deal here is that you must be careful about the impact of reaction you might get after coming out, as your safety is a top priority and if there is such a case it might jeopardize your situation, then consider postponing coming out or have a backup plan to be ready for worst-case scenario.

Hope this helps.

3 months ago · 6 notes

Anonymous asked: “I'm a girl and have always called myself straight but have always been attracted to other women as well. It's always sexual attraction, though; I have never had romantic feelings for another woman. I don't think I ever really will since I am in a committed LTR with a male partner. I don't know whether this means that I am bisexual or not. Can you help me?”

Hello anon,

The thing is, just a sexual attraction to both genders does not imply you are bisexuals, as the definition also needs an emotional connection to exist as well. However, the question is what do you really need help on: if it is the “label” you are looking for, well I cannot really help. I mean, not that I would not like to but the whole label deal is so restricting that even the existing ones merely spans what the spectrum of sexual orientation actually has.

So if you are in a relationship with a person you love, it is all that matters. Just because you might be bisexual or whatever the label is does not mean you will suddenly stop loving your partner and look for someone else. So all I can suggest is to enjoy your relationship and if you ever find yourself getting attracted to a woman both sexually and emotionally, embrace it. That’s all, really.

Hope this helps.

3 months ago · 5 notes

Anonymous asked: “So im turning 13 and i have a girlfriend , i dont think im bisexual anymore I've been with her for 7 months now. my mom doesn't know i have a feeling she is homophobic but my cousins know. i dont know what to do.”

Hello anon,

I always suggest people to not rush finding a label, as you are not bisexual for a period and then realize you are actually gay, which actually causes lots of misunderstanding about the term bisexuality. Many seem to go with label bisexuality without giving attention to what they really feel, until they truly find out about their attractions.

For coming out, if it is going to jeopardize your situation, it is better to postpone until you can provide for your own, as safety is always the best priority. But as you suggest this is how you think about your mother, I’d recommend testing out the water to see what she really thinks and how she might react if you’d come out. Just start a discussion on LGBT related news, or mention about a “friend” who come out to you, etc. and observe how she reacts, as you can get a clue from there. If it happens to be positive, then probably she will react same way when you come out, if not again it is better not to come out. If you ever decide to come out, after even observing she might react negative, please make sure to have a backup plan, someone to turn to in case of worst-scenario. Never forget, regardless how appealing and freeing coming out may be, safety always comes first.

Hope this helps, best wishes.

3 months ago · 3 notes

OPEN YOUR MOUTH! - GERMANY AGAINST HOMOPHOBIA!
by Anja Victoria Gerber on vimeo.

You can Visit Enough is Enough-Open Your Mouth’s website here to read about the protest against Russia’s homophobic laws, which will be held on August 31, in Berlin.

7 months ago · 10 notes

From Towleroad:

Gallup has revealed the results of a recent poll showing support for marriage equality at 53 percent, the third consecutive reading of 50 percent or higher in the past year.

Another poll shows the largest-gap ever measured between those who favor ‘nature’ over ‘nurture’ when it comes to sexuality.

Gallup states that, currently, 47% of Americans view being gay or lesbian as a sexual orientation individuals are born with, while 33% instead believe it is due to external factors such as upbringing or environment. That 14-percentage-point gap in favor of “nature” over “nurture” is the largest Gallup has measured to date. As recently as two years ago, the public was evenly divided.

Read more at the Gallup here.

11 months ago · 13 notes · Source

Submitted by thevoicesproject :

Growing up, coming out and learning to speak THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE

THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE

'The aim was to pick up chicks by sounding like a Frenchman. Hasn't really worked out yet.

In THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE 17 year old Charlie struggles to find the words to be true to himself…and his best friend. 

A wry, delicate take on first love and awakening sexuality from a young man’s perspective, THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE is written and performed by Kim Ho, under the mentorship of leading Australian playwright Tommy Murphy, and directed by Laura Scrivano, for The Voices Project from the Australian Theatre for Young People (atyp)

Don’t miss this folks. This is a must-watch.

1 year ago · 216 notes · Source

Some may feel that it is possible to love a person and not accept that he or she is gay. I don’t think so. Loving a person means loving a whole person. We don’t get to pick and choose the parts. Sure, we can hate the fact that someone is always 20 minutes late, or be infuriated about a 15-year-old’s new nose ring. But those aren’t defining characteristics. Our orientation is a fundamental part of who we are. Loving someone but hating the fact that he or she is gay would be like loving someone but hating the fact that he or she has arms or legs.

And what about those parents who do “accept” and “tolerate” their gay children? I guess that’s better than it could be. They’re better parents than those who throw their children out of the house or abuse them for being gay. But does any kid deserve to settle for mere acceptance or tolerance from his or her parents? Words like “accept” and “tolerate” do not indicate good things; in the context of homosexuality, they imply that there is something wrong with being gay that parents have to put up with. That is not a good message.

Every child deserves to be loved for exactly who they are, so I think it’s about time that we change how we talk about our gay children. Let’s abolish the words “accept” and “tolerate” and replace them with “cherish” and “celebrate.” When we cherish and celebrate who our children are, then maybe the scared gay kids in this country will stop worrying about whether their parents will “still” love them and will simply know they are loved unconditionally.

—  By Amelia, Huffington Post Blogger, from the piece titled “Accept’ and ‘Tolerate’ My Gay Kid? That’s Not Good Enough”. Click here to read the full piece.

1 year ago · 175 notes · Source

Anonymous asked: “What does "Questioning" mean ? Sorry , I'm rather slow .”

Hello anon,

Questioning is one being unsure and/or exploring their sexual orientation, sexual identity and/or gender which can be due to various reasons. It is also referred by the letter ‘Q’ in LGBTQ* acronym sometimes that refers to either queer or questioning.

According to the American Psychological Association:

"Adolescence can be a period of experimentation, and many youths may question their sexual feelings. Becoming aware of sexual feelings is a normal developmental task of adolescence. Sometimes adolescents have same-sex feelings or experiences that cause confusion about their sexual orientation. This confusion appears to decline over time, with different outcomes for different individuals"

To learn more, visit the related page on Wikipedia here:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Questioning_(sexuality_and_gender)

Hope this helps and don’t hesitate to ask more if you need.

Best wishes, 

1 year ago · 1 note

Stripping The Label
by James Vong on Vimeo

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1 year ago · 23 notes